The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence,
by Gavin de Becker
Book Description from the Publisher:
True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference.
A date won’t take “no” for an answer. The new nanny gives a mother an uneasy feeling. A stranger in a deserted parking lot offers unsolicited help. The threat of violence surrounds us every day. But we can protect ourselves, by learning to trust—and act on—our gut instincts.
In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the man Oprah Winfrey calls the nation’s leading expert on violent behavior, shows you how to spot even subtle signs of danger—before it’s too late. Shattering the myth that most violent acts are unpredictable, de Becker, whose clients include top Hollywood stars and government agencies, offers specific ways to protect yourself and those you love, including…how to act when approached by a stranger…when you should fear someone close to you…what to do if you are being stalked…how to uncover the source of anonymous threats or phone calls…the biggest mistake you can make with a threatening person…and more. Learn to spot the danger signals others miss. It might just save your life.
I have had this book for a while but only recently started reading it. For full disclosure, I have not completed it yet. I am so thoroughly impressed that I believe this book should be required reading for everyone, especially women. I think it is important enough that I am going to give away five copies! See “how to enter” for a chance to win a copy.
Mr. De Becker is correct; true fear is a gift. In this book he explains how it is used as a weapon. He explains the signals to look for when men use ploys to get their way and when they won’t take no for an answer. This book will help you better understand threats, how they are used and why context matters.
Violence in the workplace, domestic violence, stalking and violence by children are all explored. You will be given example after example of why paying attention to one’s gut is critical. This brings me to my one complaint about the book; Mr. De Becker credits nature and evolution for this, I credit God. Just because he doesn’t give credit to God, doesn’t take away from the fact that he knows what he is talking about.
I wouldn’t say that I enjoyed this book, it’s too dark a topic to enjoy, but it is important and if I had a daughter, this book would be required reading.
I give this book 5 stars.
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