June 25, 2017

Security is a Woman’s Responsibility Too

I have noticed that almost half of the people that like the Prepared Christian facebook page, and roughly half of the people that sign up to receive email updates are women.  This article is directed at all of my female readers as well as any man that has a woman in their life.

In many homes the job of seeking out the cause of things that go bump in the night is relegated to a man.  But what happens if the husband isn’t home or is incapacitated?  Then consider single moms or single women that live alone.

According to the Rape Trauma Services website there are “1.3 women (ages 18 and over) in the United States are forcibly raped each minute. That translates to 78 per hour, 1,871 per day, or 683,000 per year.” I believe these statistics were taking from 1992, but I have a hard time believing they would be any lower today.

Whether it is seeking the source of something that went bump in the night, or fending off an attacker, security is a woman’s job too.   The most important self-defense tool you can have is your mind, so I want to discuss mindset, I will also list some tools available to keep you safe.


Mind Set

The statistics turn my stomach, but they are eye opening.  It’s something men might think about as a danger for the women in their lives, but not as an ever present danger to themselves.  But the truth is, it is an ever present danger to women.  If you’re reading this there is a good chance you are a prepper, someone who is awake to potential dangers and someone who takes measures to mitigate them. Rape and other violent crime is another very real danger, in fact it is more of a danger than most of the other things we prepare for.

The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence is a book everyone should read, but especially woman. It explains that there are things that happen that we might overlook, but our subconscious picks up on.  I wrote a review of which can be found here. Once you open your eyes and see that there are dangers and you decide to take precautions, you can do things like practice situational awareness and use the Cooper Color Code, these two things will help you be more aware of potential threats, which can help you avoid possibly dangerous situations.


It’s Not Just a Man’s Job

As I mentioned above security is many times treated as a man’s job.  I have received email’s stating it and I have seen similar comments on various forums.  I don’t have a problem with security being primarily the man’s job, but it is also the woman’s.  When something goes bump in the night, I am the one to check on it, but Trudee is at the ready, to assist me or call 911 if needed.  If I was injured and was physically unable to check on it, or if while checking on it was rendered incapacitated, she would have a means to protect herself and call for help.

For a woman to be able to defend herself, she must have a weapon she is comfortable using.  One option that I like is a youth model 20 gauge shotgun.  Youth models are shorter and weigh less, and are easier to maneuver inside.  If a handgun with defensive loads are what is used, I suggest going to a range that rents guns and try a few out.  I know one of our local ranges has “Ladies Night” that are a basic introduction to handguns class made up of only woman.  First Shots is an organization that Trudee and I actually went through to take an introductory hand gun course through.

If you can only afford to have one firearm at home, please make it one that the smallest framed adult can use.  And each person should know how to operate it and be comfortable using it.

If you aren’t able to carry a firearm but want to have something for protection, I recommend pepper spray.  I wrote an article called Self-Defense: Pepper Spray where I explain some of the downsides of certain types of pepper spray.  I personally carry Cold Steel Inferno .38 oz. Keyring Hardcase Unit Pepper Spray as does Trudee,  it is OC type, which is an inflammatory agent and causes one’s eyes to slam shut and severe burning.  CS and CN types are irritants and some people are not affected.


Final Thoughts

When it comes to security, it might primarily be “the man’s job” but some of that responsibility also falls on the women’s shoulders.  Ladies you are responsible for your own safety and for the safety of your family, even if that means in an assisting role.


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  1. What an awesome article… All the web sides on preparedness that I read… Your is the most tasteful…realistic…and informative! Thank you for all you do! Keep up the great work and God Bless you and your Chris!

  2. Excellent article. My husband has three firearms and bought a gun for me, but I don’t feel comfortable using it. What is your opinion regarding a woman using a tazer gun?

    • Chris Ray says:

      Thank you. I personally don’t like tazers for self defense for a couple of reasons. I think they are a great less than lethal option for police, but they also have pepper spray, baton, hand to hand, flashlight and their firearm. When I went through citizens academy, which is a 10 week long course put on by local police departments, we were told that many criminals practice how to beat tazers by rolling on the ground to dislodge the prongs. The other problem is that with 90% of them you only have the one chance, you would have to reload if you miss. The prongs also might not penetrate through bulky clothing or jacket.

      If possible I would suggest selling the gun he bought for you, and finding one you do like. Short of that, I would say a can of Inferno pepper spray from cold steel would be your best bet.

  3. My first gun was .38 special….I felt comfortable with it, since I’d never shot a gun before and was very nervous…after about a year, I went with a Bersa .380….and I love it!
    When my husband is out of town on business, I feel so much safer having a gun with me, that I’m comfortable with and I know I can use to defend myself and my children!

  4. Christine McElholm says:

    Dear Chris,

    I am finding your messages very interesting, thank you.
    I am very new to the prepper way of life and would like to know your advice on defending a home in the UK. We cannot use firearms and are very limited under the law as to what we can do.


    • Chris Ray says:

      Hi Christine,

      Welcome to the Prepping community, and to this blog. The UK does have more restricted options for home and self-defense, but you still have options. I remember reading about many stores in the UK running out of bats during the riots in I believe 2010. I guess having one or two around would be a decent idea. If pepper spray is a legal option I would suggest that as well.

      You could also turn one room in your home into a safe room of sorts, fortifying the door and windows. Here is an article I wrote that touches on some other ideas. I would suggest having a bat in room you spend the most time in, and one in the safe room. A long flash light might be another option, as well. An Asp baton would be easier to hide, but i don’t know if they are legal there.


      Thanks for the questions, I hope it helps. Please let me know if you have any more.


  5. Great article Chris! I will be passing on the link and tweeting this out as I always do. Keep up the great work and God bless.

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