March 25, 2017

Where Has Chris Been?

I’ve gotten some inquiries about where I have been the last few months. As you might have noticed, I haven’t made any new blog posts. The following is an account, and might be more info than you care to know. I’m sharing it; not for anyone to feel sorry for me, but to show that the stuff hits the fan in many different ways, not all of which involve the economy, EMP’s or government. I’m also sharing it to ask for prayer; for myself and, mostly, for my parents.

It started in early spring of 2015 with some of my own health issues; a few types of chronic pain, some degenerative discs, issues from old injuries, and, on top of all of that, fibromyalgia. We also moved my parents from the second level apartment building into my in-laws’ ground floor handicap accessible lower level. This was a huge blessing to my parents, one they are so grateful for.

A few months after moving in, sometime in August, my mom fell and broke her ankle. Mom, who has Huntington’s disease with mild dementia was transferred to a transitional care unit. The night she was admitted, she says a male nurse took some of her pain meds, shook her and threatened her to keep quiet. I made the decision to pull her out. Whether or not it actually happened is irrelevant. She believes it happened and would not rest or heal there.

Two days after bringing her home, she called me at 3:00am to tell me my dad was falling while trying to get to the bathroom. I told her to call 911, that I was on my way, and would get her situated, and head to the ER. Dad is a diabetic, so I was thinking “low blood sugar”. He was admitted, in septic shock caused by diverticulitis; and we were told anyone admitted with sepsis has a 40% chance of not leaving. He was in ICU for a week. Praise God! He recovered; at least from the sepsis.

Over the next few months he had bowel movements 10-20 times a day. At first it was believed it was from the diverticulitis, and a colonoscopy was done to determine the best course of action. The doctor found two tumors and said that he had seen enough tumors in his career to know they were cancerous. This was on a Thursday, so we had to wait until Tuesday for the biopsy results, only to find out that it was not cancer. (Praise God, AGAIN!) Needless to say, dad got a new doctor at a totally new hospital.

It was discovered that the cause of the multiple bowel movements is Clostridium difficile, a very resilient colon infection. He has taken antibiotics to treat it, and was recently told by the infectious disease specialist, that while he has recently still tested positive, they believe he is getting rid of it.

Fast forward a few weeks; and he had another colonoscopy, by a specialist this time. The tumor the first doctor had seen had grown so much, they could not do the scope. They took several biopsies and again, praise God, they came back non-cancerous. He had to be admitted for a colon obstruction and was given a colostomy bag. He was in the hospital for a week and was in transitional care for a week. Oh, I forgot to mention that during the stint in the hospital the first time, he had several small strokes, as a result of going into Atrial Fibrillation (which he came out of in a couple of days). These have impaired his short-term memory greatly, have left him weakened and with very shaky hands.

While in TCU he developed several abscesses at the surgical site, which landed him in the hospital for another week, and a month in transitional care.

Trudee and I have had to take over their entire household; paying bills, shopping, you name it. In their current states, I don’t feel comfortable letting either of them drive, so I have become their chauffeur as well.

For the sake of brevity and dignity, I’ve left several things out. So, the reason for the lack of posts is that when I do have free time, I just don’t feel very creative, and mostly want to check out mentally for a while. It’s also hard to think about prepping for the future while paddling up the crick, if you catch my drift.

I’m not complaining! What I’m going through is nothing compared to what my dad is going through or what my mom is currently battling and will be battling with Huntington’s; a cruel hereditary disease.

It is my pleasure as their son to help take care of them, but I would be lying if I said it was easy. At times I get so dang crabby I can’t stand myself! I’ve failed at times to honor them, but I apologize and ask forgiveness.

In this time, we’ve also had several car repairs needed, totaling in the thousands, job issues, family issues and, most recently, we found out that one of our dogs, Tanner, has cancer. Tanner is more than just a dog, he is part of our family and a huge source of joy.

I am blessed with a Godly wife, who helps as much as she can and, above all, is understanding.

I learned something from Job; he complained and asked God, “why me?”. I learned that God has His reasons for doing things. It is not my place to question His motives. I may not understand or like what He has put before me. My task is to keep putting one foot in front of the other as I march forward, toward the cross. Sometimes the path is on steady ground, others up hill on loose footing, and sometimes it is a downright slog.

The site going forward

This site is still seeing traffic from new people daily and new subscribers. This tells me that it is still a resource for some. Because of that I’ll never sell it or shut it down. However, it costs $70 a month for the service to send out emails to let people know there is a new post. I can’t justify paying this when I’m not posting. I don’t know if or when I will post regularly unless Father inspires me.

It has been my pleasure to write for this ministry over the last five years. I have been humbled by the mount of people who’ve stopped by to read, share and converse with me.

If you have room on your prayer list, please include my mom and dad, Trudee and myself.

Because I have taken down the registration for emails, which is how I distributed the eBook. here is a link to the download page for the free eBook I wrote called Why Should I Prepare and Is It Biblical

May the Lord bless and keep you all.

Chris

Comments

  1. Hey Chris,

    Sorry to hear of the troubles. Whether we prepare or not, life happens to us all… and prayer remains one of the best ways to make it through the difficult times.

    Praying for your family today!

    God bless,
    Steve

  2. Thank you for sharing your plight and prayer request, Chris. I can’t imagine having so much weight on my shoulders as you have, currently. But, know that your faith is an inspiration for many. Thank you so very much for all that you have done and continue to do to help us be prepared for emergencies. God bless you, brother.

  3. Will keep you in prayer!

  4. Hi Chris,

    I am so sorry you are going through this. I cared for my father alone for 7 years, he had an intracranial bleed, brain surgery and survived to have a bowel perforation, sepsis 3 times and survived, bowel obstruction, broken hip, had to be fed, the list goes on. I like you found the road hard, I remember saying to my father, I don’t know why we are going through this, but when I get to heaven I want to respectively ask the Good Lord why.

    My father couldn’t talk, so he couldn’t tell me the symptoms of lung cancer until it went to his liver and he passed.

    Looking back on this, I can say, my love for my father grew in ways it would have never grown if it were not for this experience. As children and then grown adults our relationship(s) with our parents stay at a certain level, but having walked with him through this my daughter love for my father matured, grew and became more precious. People ask me now days about how hard it was, I say, I wouldn’t have missed him for the world, it was the hardest work of my life, but the most rewarding work of my life.

    You are going through it, God will never leave or forsake you, lean on him for strength, and as my father would tell me growing up, talk to the Good Lord all about your troubles, he knows about it, but he likes to hear from his children, just like an earthly father likes to hear from his children.

    This part of your life will not last forever, God will strengthen and guide you and you will come out the other side counting your blessings that you were there for your parents every step of the way.

    You are in my prayers!
    Shelley

    • Chris Ray says:

      I am sorry to hear about what you went through, but I can understand what you mean about it deepening the love we have. I am closer to my dad now than I have ever been.

      Thanks for sharing.

      • Chris, the Lord has led me to share some of my father’s wisdom imparted on me as his daughter.

        When I was facing a difficult situation dad would say to me, “If it was easy, anybody could do it, you are not anybody, you are a child of the Living God! So never forget who’s you are!”

        Chris, as this road gets hard and a times seems impossible, never forget who’s you are, a child of the Living God, and if it were easy, anybody could do it, you are NOT anybody!!

        Your sister in Christ, Shelley

  5. Chris, thank you for sharing your troubles. Other than what’s going on in the world around us, we too contend with the “longsuffering” . Gladly, I will keep you and parents in my prayers. After all, we are all in it together.

    Miguel

  6. Randall Ingram says:

    Greetings Chris,
    Just a note to let you know I have prayed and am praying for your parents, you and your wife and the future of Prepared Christian.
    I have enjoyed reading your material and hope some day you will be directed by the Father to continue.
    Blessings and prayers in Jesus Christ our Savior,.
    Randall

  7. Candice Smitherman says:

    Chris,
    No words can convey what they need to. Only know that prayers will be said for all of you. May you allow Jesus to hold you when you cannot stand.

  8. So sorry to hear about all the woes your parents and you are facing, Chris. Sending prayer your way! Stay strong in the Lord, whose strength is made perfect in our weakness.
    hugs and blessings,

    Linore

  9. Elizabeth Szeremeta says:

    Hello,
    I am truly sorry to hear about your many misfortunes and predicaments. I went through hard times myself over the last year, and finally I contacted Kurt Green (kurtgreen.org). He is a Christian naturopath with a deliverance ministry, who charged me only 30 dollars each for two telephone sessions. He has a wonderful gift where the Lord actually shows him which stuff was inherited from the sins of our ancestors, which stuff happened as a result of an assignment etc. My situation improved drastically in a short time. I am sure he could help you too. I took the quiz he offered and it proved that my problems were not physical but spiritual.
    Also you could try Dr. Goldfedder`s site, healingisyours.com . He prays on the phone FREE OF CHARGE. Try this. You have nothing to lose!
    Elizabeth

  10. ALL thing work together for the GOOD.
    Keep the faith Bro.

  11. Son of Liberty says:

    Chris,

    I’m truly sorry to hear of the troubles you and your parents have been going through. I’m convinced our common spiritual enemy is doing anything and everything he can to prevent godly people from disseminating the truth that Christ is coming – SOON – and who are sounding the warning for others to prepare for a time of great tribulation. I’m fully convinced there is a spiritual component to your troubles, and will engage in prayer for/with you against the enemy of our souls.

    Blessings on you and yours,

    Son of Liberty

    • Chris Ray says:

      I’m sure of it too. If he is picking on me, he can’t be picking on someone else.

      Thanks for the prayer!

  12. alvan williams atkinson says:

    Chris, Thanks for getting us up to date on your family problems. Will be praying for you all, keep us posted on how things are going. Bill Atkinson.

  13. Hey Chris… sorry to hear about all this. We have been in the weeds with a laundry list of stuff too. I miss your posts but completely understand. I’d love to hear your insight on what’s happening in the world and how we might be more prepared to minister and serve through it.

    God bless… I’ll pray for you and your family
    RS

    • Chris Ray says:

      Thanks Richard. Maybe I’ll come up with some thoughts, and post it. It won’t go out to people, so you’d need to check back here.

  14. Chris,

    My heart goes out to you and your family. It is hard to take care of yourself when you are doing so much as a caregiver.

    I’ve walked in the shoes of caregiver and that is about to become way more of a challenge, and I thank you so much for your straightforward post. As Christians our lives are not perfect, and it is hard, and I find also very lonely, being a caregiver. But sometimes we think we have to show the world a brave face and you reminded me it’s fine to ask for help.

    Thanks for what you shared. It helps me a lot to hear what you had to say. It also reminds me there are others who know what it’s like. You all are definitely in my prayers. God bless you.

    • Chris Ray says:

      Thank you. Prayer for you as well.
      Romans 5:1-5:5 has helped.

      “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”

  15. Hi Chris,

    Glad you came up for air and let us know whats going on. I have to say that you are a good son taking care of parents like that. Not everyday that children would do that they would rather ship them off and forget them. Check out the replacement for pandora… prazor.com new site that streams music, teachings and talk shows. Has APPs for iPhone and Androids.
    let me know what you think.

    Rene

    • Chris Ray says:

      Well that is the threat if they don’t eat all their veggies lol.

      I’ll try and take a look at the app.

  16. Catherine says:

    I am sorry that life has thrown so much your way for you to handle. Faith is the only thing that has gotten me through my life, and it will work for you. prsyers for you and your family. God loves you!

  17. Prayers your way with God all things are possible. May he Bless your family in all ways.

  18. I am not at all surprised anymore by calamities that befall us. After all, isn’t being prepared as a Christian part of our walk? IT does affect us still though, when we can identify with what others are going through. This is the beauty of our Family, to know, to feel, to pray, to share. It does affect us because we do care about others. Thanks for sharing, prayers on the way.
    George A. Young wrote it best,
    Some through the waters, some through the flood,
    Some through the fire, but all through the blood;
    Some through great sorrow, but God gives a song,
    In the night season and all the day long.

  19. Dear Chris,

    Thank you for sharing! We need to know what is happening in people’s lives because we need to pray for each other and you and your family are on my list.

    God is good all the time.

  20. Thank you for sharing your troubles. God works in mysterious ways. Your speaking may be just what one person needs to take just one more step toward the help and peace they need. You are in our prayers.

  21. “…Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine. When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.” Isaiah 43: 1b-2 (KJV)
    This passage has comforted me through the rough times. The Father walks with us through the “mess” of life … notice I wrote THROUGH! I have to remind myself (often!) that everything that happens in my life (and every believer’s life) is sifted through a loving Father’s hands. He is there for you!
    Blessing (mixed though they may be!) to you and yours, Chris!

  22. Hi Chris,

    I understand the struggles that you are going through as I’ve gone through some simular things myself before my father passed with cancer. While the devil may be throwing everything that he can at us right now God is right there with us helping our faith to grow stronger. He is helping us prepare for what’s to come by helping our faith in him to grow stronger. He knows that we will need our faith to be strong for what is to come and wants to make sure that we know he is with us always.
    Not sure if you considered this or not but speaking with your friends at church about what is going on, their may be a lot of people that want to help but are not sure of what you need or what you would be ok with them doing to help.
    Our prayers are with you no matter what. Take care and don’t forget to give yourself time alone to either pray or just read the bible, it’ll help. These are things that I wasn’t aware of or even thought of during my father’s illness and wish someone would have told me. Hope it helps.

  23. Christina Perez says:

    Our family has Huntington’s disease in it too so I understand. May the Lord bless you and keep you and your family. Thank you SO much for all the work you have done to help so many. I will pray for you and your family!

  24. God bless you and your family. I have several awesome prayer partners we will be praying. It also blessed me so any caring people responded to your post. The enemy would like us to think in the midst of a storm we are alone. Thank GOD He never slumbers nor sleeps. Blessings and prayers

  25. Praying for you and your family in a mighty way, Chris!

  26. Hello Chris,

    Yes, I will definitely keep you in my prayers and have been through some tough times myself. Also a believer and follower of Christ I have been called to create a new internet broadcasting network called “The Patriot Broadcasting Network” with its flagship show called “Voices of America with Richard Stone” a call in show where the people of our country will have the opportunity to voice their opinions and concerns instead of being cut-off by ego maniac talking heads. Other shows are VETO Washington, Stone Cold Survival and Spear of GOD Ministries. I would like to talk to you about possibly joining the network.

    GOD Bless You and Your Family,

    Richard Stone

  27. Hello Chris,
    Many of us have experienced the journey with parents that need their children’s assistance. From your message it seems that you and Trudee are sharing with many the true definition of “Obedience” As tough as it is, Faith, Hope and Love keeps us Christians walking forward everyday. This will than bring more and more smiles from you and Trudee. Stay the course and focus on the Father in Heaven.
    The Holy Spirit will continue to provide an abundance of strength.
    My wife, Christine and I will pray for you along with our Prayer Team at our Church.

    Many Blessings to my to you both.

  28. Jim Moore says:

    I so sorry to hear of all your troubles Brother.
    Praying for you upon reading this, a verse came to me from 1 Peter 1, 7 and 8; That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ: Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory…
    Continued Prayers my Friend!
    Anytime you need to talk, call or email me.
    Blessings!
    Jim

  29. Wow, sounds incredibly challenging, but like Job, u are surviving! I know that being a primary caregiver is NOT easy. & fibromyaligia isn’t a bucket of fun either. Perhaps someday, u”ll look back on this experience, learn from it, & even feel blessed, as Job was at the end of his book.

  30. Pamela Hall says:

    Thanks for update, Chris. I have missed your blogs so much! I know that your inspirational writing & knowledge & ability to express them is lead by HIM! You have touched many souls with your words & hopefully he will being you back to this path so you can touch many more! Lifting you, Trudee, mom, & dad in prayer. Blessings!

  31. Pamela Hall says:

    🙂

  32. Deb Wilder says:

    You have been a blessing to all of us, Chris through your posts. They have been a guiding force in our prepping and in our understanding of what is going on in this world of ours. God gave you this gift for a season, and now he has other plans for you and Trudee. I am convinced that you will be blessed yourselves as you lovingly care for your parents. It may not be easy, but, it is Biblically the right thing to do, and I admire you for your commitment to them. Always remember that when God brings us to it; he will be right by our side to carry us through it!
    My prayers are with all of you.

  33. Chris,
    After reading of your curcumstances, I feel guilty for thnking of mine in the terms I sometimes do. I too have a parent to be a care giver to, and have become the daddy-mommy around the house because my wife is the only income at a difficult employment situation.
    I rely on Romans: 8-28, understanding that through Everything” Jesus is always providing and guiding my steps daily.
    Our prayers will be with you and your family. Prayers for strength, and Peace, and rest.
    May the Lord Bless You and Yours Always
    Rick

    • Chris Ray says:

      I feel guilty after reading what some people are going through. But God’s grace is enough to get us all through what we are each going through.

      Blessings to you as well Rick!

  34. It’s sort of amazing–I visited your site for the first time today because I just started looking into preparedness as a Christian. But the main thing I am going through right now is fatigue and stress after about seven years straight of care-giving for my parents. So yes, I am praying for you and pray that things calm down and you can think straight. I understand!

  35. Chris, You, Trudee and your parents are now on my prayer list. As many prepper sites tell you, you must take care of yourself before you can help anyone else. Y’all are on a plane with the masks dropped down. Put yours on first! Dear Lord, Please keep this dear family in Your ever watchful and all powerful hands. Give them the strength and peace to get through this time. Chris is an inspiration and a wealth of knowledge in a scary world. I pray that he may be able to return to impart his knowledge in both prepping and in teaching Your Word, Lord. Amen

  36. We so appreciate the update, our hearts are with you and your dear parents…many of us are already there, or soon to be, with our parents also. Prayers for all of you, and that your ‘prepping’ can yield some good info for more natural management for the many ailments and conditions. Blessings to you!

  37. God bless and you’ll all be in my prayers. Thank you for the update and walking Gods path. Job is the perfect example for what is going on. Everything happens the way it’s supposed to.

  38. Mark Ray says:

    Hi Chris sorry to hear of you and your families plight! What your going through is so close to my and my families plight that it’s uncanny! I too have Fibro (22 years) (plus back degeneration etc), Mum and Sister too! Lost Dad 2 years ago to blood poisoning from complication due to cancer radiation treatment! My 10yo son had a bone tumour that (thank the Lord) was not cancer but was so painful he was on heavy pain meds! Non of us got much sleep for 4 months while we waited for opp! Thank God he’s on his way back to full health but when it rains it pours mate! That was just the high lights!! Anyway just wanted to share a little and say (God is good) even when we don’t have any idea what the bleep is going on! My saying goes “I know God is not supposed to give us more than what we can handle…….I just wish He didn’t think we could handle so much!!!!!! Cheers Brother! Mark

  39. Thanks for the post, it has helped me. I’m going through a similar situation with my folks, 89 and 90. You helped me understand why I’m so drained, I didn’t realize it was taking a toll. Like you said, it is a joy to help them and honor them. I will pray for you and your dear helper and your folks. Good to know I’m not alone.

  40. Melanie says:

    You’re writing is missed, for sure. When I think of you, I will pray for mercy and grace to be heaped upon you and your loved ones. Thank you for sharing.

  41. Prayers for you and your family. Satan doesn’t bother sinners he terrorizes Christians. I can understand how rough it can get, mentally and physically stressful. Don’t let him get you down. Keep your faith and keep on keeping on for God!!

    It’s funny I ran across this today because I myself have fibromyalgia and bad discs in my back. I have been trying to help take care of my Mom and Sister when they need my help plus others. My sister is 57 and has lupus, RA and few more things to mention. My mother is 74 and is diabetic, has neuropathy in her legs and has one problem right after the other. She just got out of the hospital with kidney failure. Imagine that!! God can heal anything and I am a firm believer in Prayer!!

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